Go Ahead Girls – Dating tradition needs to be dumped
November 18, 2009 • By Sue Allen, Staff Reporter
Filed under Opinion, Top Stories
For too long this has been a question up for debate: should the guy or the girl ask the other out?
We are living in the 21st century and the old tradition of a guy asking a girl out should be put aside. Women ought to be more courageous and be the “gentlelady” for once. By doing this, some of the pressure would be taken off the guy and it would release a bit of anxiety and additionally boost his self-confidence.
For decades it has been the guy who finds the courage to ask the girl on a date. This act seems to be one that requires a lot of self-confidence, courage, and respect, and the guy must bear the thought of rejection. If women claim to be the strong and independent women that they are, why can’t they be the one to ask?
Is it the fear of being rejected? I believe most definitely it is. Too often men have to suffer the dire answer of “No.” Can’t we as women feel the pain and heartache that comes with that two-letter word?
It is said that both men and women are created equal, right? Then why does the guy always seem to be the more daring, willing, and, most of all, superior one. It’s time for us women to step up to the plate and put aside those two feelings – fear and pride – that so easily beset us.
If a lady wants a new pair of shoes, no matter the price she’ll get them. So if she wants a guy . . . shouldn’t she ask him out?
Life is not always easy and people make unwise choices daily. One such is a woman’s decision in not taking the initiative to ask a guy out.
The question doesn’t have to be obvious. It could simply be, “Do you want to hang out at the movies this Saturday?” Or maybe, “Would you like to sit with me at lunch today?” From then you can start a conversation and if the guy is interested you will know.
There are only two possible answers to those questions – either “Yes” or “No.” “I don’t know” and “I’m not sure” don’t count. If the guy is interested he’ll let you know upfront.
So women, “gentleladies,” and Pencader girls, let’s make a difference. Let’s compromise, break traditions, and be the “guy” for once. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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I don’t completely aqree with you on that one. If the qirl were to qo up to the quy and ask him out, wouldn’t that make her seem to be desperate or seekinq for attention. Like I know that the females should step up and speak their minds, but it may not always turn out the way they’d want it to. Due to the qossip that takes place in a hiqh school, consider the rumors that would spread just over somethinq as small as a female askinq a boy out. Then aqain, this would break the natural tradition of waitinq for that one quy to ask you out. If you sit around and wait, then that quy may end up qoinq to another qirl and askinq her out. Even thouqh you were continuously waitinq for him to come up to you, he acknowledqed someone other than yourself leavinq you enraqed and envious. Try lookinq at the picture from both ends of the barqain, and then list the pros and cons of the situation. Good article though, well spoken and thought out.
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I really dont care if like the boy ask the girl or the girl ask the boy it doesnt matter to me cause it seem very stupid. if u like him or her go for it you dont have to wait.
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I would like comment on Edwina Wilson’s reply to Briana Williams.
Umm you wrote the article and replied with terrible grammar. I hope in the future you fix the problem. Mrs. Sylvia is crying at night knowing her grammar worksheets have not helped anybody.
On the article I have one thing to say……………………………………………………………
WHY??? If you like someone it shouldn’t matter who asks just ask and if you get rejected move on……….It’s Pencader.
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Pencader mom Reply:
November 23rd, 2009 at 7:18 pm
Ben, not to be rude but you corrected grammar (I liked it – I am the grammar police at my house.) but then you wrote the following: If you like someone it shouldn’t matter who asks just ask and if you get rejected move on. I am just wondering what your dear teacher would think of that sentence! Just wondering! Nice article by the way!
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Pencader dad Reply:
November 24th, 2009 at 11:54 am
I love Pencader mom. Will you marry me?
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pencader police Reply:
November 24th, 2009 at 6:44 pm
She corrects everyone for their grammar but would be in big trouble if she needed to divide a multiple fraction,
PS she’s married to a wonderful man
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pencader woman Reply:
February 23rd, 2010 at 12:05 pm
i love pencader police. will they marry me?
Am I the only one who is willing to use their real name?
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I’d totally follow this wonderful school’s advice on dating.
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i luv relationships
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Amber and Kristen. Reply:
April 20th, 2010 at 11:24 am
good for youuu. SIKE.
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This article is pointless . it really should’nt matter whom asks whom out this is the 21st century and if you like someone then go for it dont act like a little kid in kindergarden . . . . Cherise feels that if you really like somebody just try talking to them and being friends first . you never know what might happen when yall qet really close . =)…kacie feels as though you always should be yourself never try to act or be different because it qets you no where:)
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I feel like if Cherise wants to say something she should speak for herself.
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Ben, maybe you should save yourself some dignity and STOP using your real name..
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How can you tell someone who is using their real name they have no dignity? – I hope you think more logically in the future
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I understand completely where your coming from but I’m just an old-fashioned type of girl. BUT, I will admit that IF & ONLY IF this guy is super amazing and special, i will add little things in (signs). Otherwise, tradition is the way to go. Plus, it’s like a lady to sit back and let the guys chase, they love it.
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DOPE!!
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This was Great! Love it! Go For It!
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i agree with this. i am a boy at mckinley technology high school and i have the idea of dealing with rejection every day. some people just need that extra confidence booster to build that courage to ask females out.
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